So lately the theme of my dating life and seemingly all of my close friends is "Getting Over It." Relationships (and non-relationships) end. Get over it! Sometimes you can be the Tom in the relationship: The person who misses the other, while they are out getting engaged and moving on with their lives. Or you can be the Summer, the person who found something that they never knew they wanted and ended up hurting someone in the process. Honestly, I've spent time being both Tom and Summer and neither side is really cool. I don't want to break the heart, but I also don't want to get mine broken. I have ended things with guys that were really into me, and been rejected by guys that I was really into (seems impossible that someone would reject me right? Lol). Point is, it's life Tom! I mean, how happy would have Tom been if Summer just went along with it, when really she didn't want to be there? Not very happy! Eventually, there would be another roadblock.
In all honesty, MOST relationships, are just not meant to be. Summer won't last always. Seasons change. Get over it!
I loved that movie. I also wansn't a big Summer fan. She was like one of those girls that always led guys on...probably not on purpose...but still, I think a part of her likes doing that to guys. Anyway, I felt bad for Tom but at least the writers ended the movie on a positive note when he met Autumn =)
ReplyDeleteI loved that movie! It was so relatable... had really funny moments, it was good. I have definitely been a "tom". But, I've also been a "summer" and so I can understand both perspectives pretty thoroughly and that's why its hard to hate Summer because I do understand where she was coming from. She was upfront with him about what their relationship was to her and although she hurt him in the process you cant fault her for her honesty. He was told that this was not going to go where he wanted it to, and he decided that she MUST share the feelings he did, on the level that he did, and convinced himself that she would come around soon enough. ON THE OTHER HAND (before the daggers come out.. lol) The excuse of, "I told you from the beginning" doesn't always cut it. Hurting someone is not excused because you told them or by some means warned them that you would. It still hurts!... and if you know we don't want the same thing then sometimes it's better to just cut ties before my 10yr old little sister has to hold an intervention with me :)
ReplyDelete-Keila