The dreadful gray area. Sigh. It seems a girl can get caught in this before she even knows what happened and sadly, the gray area is relationship quick sand. He's not your boyfriend, but way more than a regular friend. You don't care if a regular friend returns your calls, or take you out because you haven't seen a movie in a while. You don't blow your regular friend's phone up at 2am with drunk angry rants, do you? Noooo those embarrassing episodes that leave you tweeting your frustrations out are saved for someone you think is special. Special?! Special is something that is distinct, like hot pink or Iphones, but gray...gray isn't special at all. Gray is so blah. Gray gets boring. Gray doesn't really stand out. Gray eventually fades to something even more...gray.
But hey, maybe I'm pessimistic or seen one too many gray-fairy tales. Gray matter may just in fact develop color one day, but I wouldn't bet on it.
I absolutely love this post and I agree wholeheartedly. The gray area is never distinct but it seems to be a situation that so many men find comfort and so many women find dismay. The gray area can also become inevitable for various reasons. Either way, at some point we must all grow and learn how to accurately define our relationships.
ReplyDeleteYES! the dreaded gray area... why is it that dudes find it so comfortable?? I hate grays. It either is or it isn't. It's just a matter of making a decision, and if you aren't sure or your get a "it's complicated"... all that means to me is you dont have enough information to make the decision. At which point you need to make a decision on whether or not you want to get the information needed. Ugh... so ridiculous. I agree with Mina, at some point, get on your grown men/woman ish and learn how to define yourself and your relationships.
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